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为什么大多数人永远不会真正地成功?

Most people will never be truly successful.

The pull towards mediocrity is too strong.

As David Schwartz once penned, “All aroundyou is an environment that is trying to pullyou down to Second-Class Street.”

Most people will never escape the pull.

Much of the thinking around us is small-minded. Most people are overly concerned with “beating the other guy,” usually through manipulation and politics.

As a result, they’re left fighting for scraps with the other 99%.It doesn’t have to be this way.

A life of your deepest dreams -- 100% financial independenc e, being your own boss, traveling the world with your family, whatever -- is available, if you know where to start. But most people will never turn away from the safety and security of the crowd to realize this.

大多数人永远不会真正成功,将人拉向平庸的吸引力太大了。大卫·施瓦茨曾经写道:“所有你周围的环境,正试图把你拉向一条平庸的道路。”大多数人永远无法逃脱这种诱惑。

我们周围的很多想法都是狭隘的,大多数人过分关注打败别人,通常是通过操作和政治的手段,结果他们只能和其他99%的人争夺残羹冷炙。

人生不一定要这样,你一生中最深切的梦想:100%的经济独立、做自己的老板、和家人一起环游世界……无论什么都是可以实现的,只要你知道该从哪开始。但是大多数人永远不会为了实现这些而放弃人群带来的安全和保障。

Most people hate failure.

They run from it.

In their eyes, if they suck at something,it means they suck.

Since their self-worth is tied directly totheir performance, any failure is proof theyaren’t good enough.

But this is exactly why they’ll stay inmediocrity.

If they aren’t willing to fail, they aren’table to learn from their mistakes.

If they never learn, they’ll never growand develop into something more.

“Would you like me to give you a formulafor success?

It’s quite simple, really: Double your rateof failure.

You are thinking of failure as the enemy ofsuccess.But it isn’t at all.

You can be discouraged by failure or you canlearn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes.

Make all you can.

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大多数人不愿意接受失败,只有在我们愿意承受失败,我们才能真正成功——马克·曼森

大多数人讨厌失败,他们逃避失败。在他们眼里,如果他们把某件事搞砸了,那就意味着他们本身很糟糕。因为他们的自我价值与他们的表现直接相关,任何失败都会证明他们不够好。但这正是他们保持平庸的原因,如果他们不愿意失败,他们就无法从错误中吸取教训。如果他们不从中学习,他们永远不会成长,不会发展得更好。

你想让我给你一个成功的公式吗?其实真的很简单:把你的失败率提高一倍。你把失败视为成功的敌人,但事实并非如此,你可以因失败而气馁或者你也可以从中学习。所以放手去犯错吧,尽你所能。

Because remember that’s where you will findsuccess.”-Thomas J. WatsonIf you’re not willing to fail, you guaranteeyou’ll stay average-at-best.

If you want to grow into an extraordinaryversion of yourself, you must be willing tofail -- a lot.

Failure brings humility.

It develops your character.

It helps you laugh at your mistakes and nottake things so seriously.

Like a plant placed from the shade into sunlight,your growth rate will accelerate 10x.

“因为记住只有这样,你才能找到成功”—— 托马斯·沃森

如果你不愿意接受失败,那么你最好也只能保持一般水平。如果你想成长为一个非凡的自己,你必须愿意失败——很多次。失败会带来谦逊,它能培养你的性格,它能帮助你笑对自己的错误,不把事情看得那么严重。就像把植物从阴凉处放到阳光下,你的成长速度将提高10倍。

When I first started blogging, I was terrifiedof one thing in particular -- negative feedback.

I still remember to this day a comment froman early article that read, “This is the

worst article I’ve ever read.”

I was broken up about it for months.

After that, I made all my articles as vanillaand non-controversial as possible.Before I hit “publish,” I would ask myself:“No one could criticize this, right??”

I was terrified of failure and rejection.

As a result, my writing stayed mediocre andaverage for years until I finally startedto embrace the possibility of failure.

Benjamin Hardy put it this way: “Don’tseek praise, seek criticism.”

If you embrace the possibility of failure,you open yourself up to enormous success you’venever seen before.

当我刚开始写博客的时候,我特别害怕一件事情:负面的反馈。我至今还记得一篇早期文章的评论:“这是我读过的最糟糕的文章”。我为此伤心了好几个月,在那之后,我把我所有的文章尽可能写的平淡无奇,没有争议,在我点击发布之前,我会问自己:“没人能批评这篇文章,对吧。”我害怕失败和拒绝,因此,我的写作水平多年来一直普普通通,直到我最终开始接受失败的可能性。

本杰明·哈迪说:不要寻求表扬,要寻求批评。如果你接受失败的可能性,你就有可能获得前所未有的巨大成功。

Most people would choose entertainment anddistraction instead of learning and growing.

It’s not surprising.

Learning is hard.Going to counseling, becoming a student ofyour craft, and constantly failing aren’tfun.

In the words of Hal Elrod: “Repetition canbe boring or tedious, which is why so few people ever master anything.”

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“平庸的大多数人不重视学习,你学到的每一项技能都会使你成功的几率加倍”——斯科特·亚当斯

大多数人选择娱乐和消遣,而不是学习和成长。这并不奇怪,学习是困难的,去咨询,成为一项技能的学徒,并不断失败并不有趣。用哈尔·艾尔罗德的话说,重复可能会很无聊。这就是为什么很少有人能掌握任何东西。

This is great news for the rest of us, though.

Uber-successful entrepreneur Darren Hardyonce remarked that he’s always glad whensomething is difficult, because that meansmost people won’t ever do it.

The competition will always be low.

Prioritizing learning and self-education maybe new for you.

But know this:For every day you read a book, millions ofothers didn’t.

For every morning you woke up early to createand produce, millions of others slept in.

For every day you kept going, millions ofothers quit.Ironically, the fiercest competition is forthe second-class prizes.

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不过,这对我们其他人来说是个好消息。成功的企业家达伦·哈迪曾经说过,当遇到困难时,他总是很高兴。因为这意味着大多数人永远不会做这件事,竞争不会很激烈。优先学习和自我教育对你来说可能是新的,但要知道:每天你读的一本书,都有成千上万的 人没有读过。每个你早起创造和生产的早晨,成千上万的人还在睡着。你坚持下去的每一天,都有成千上万的人选择放弃。

Once you prioritize learning, you become awareof the 1% of opportunities that are trulylife-changing.

More importantly -- these opportunities haveincredibly less competition!

Most people will continue fighting for scrapswith the “mediocre majority.”

That’s a game you don’t want to win.

Instead, quit the game entirely.

Leave the crowd.

Choose learning and self-education insteadof entertainment and distraction.

讽刺的是,最激烈的竞争往往存在于平庸的人群中。

一旦你把学习放在首位,你会意识到那1%的机会,才是真正改变生活的。更重要的是,这些机会的竞争,少得令人难以置信,大多数人将继续与“平庸的大多数”为残羹冷炙而战,那会是一场你不想赢得的比赛。相反,完全退出这场比赛,离开人群,选择学习和自我教育,而不是娱乐和消遣。

Deep down, most people don’t think theyhave what it takes to be extraordinary.

It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy, of course-- if you don’t believe you can, you surelywon’t!

I blogged for 4 years and never got more than200 subscribers.

Looking back, I see now that I never reallybelieved I could produce truly great writing.

In the past couple months, I’ve gained morethan 5,000 subscribers.

This is because I started to take my writingseriously -- started to take myself seriously.I began believing in myself.

I started acting like a winner before I foundany success.

So what did I do?

I bought a $500 writing course.

I started waking up at 6 A.M. every day towrite.

I’ve spent hundreds of dollars on personal development books.

I treat myself like someone who knows they’reone of the best writers on the Internet.

Soon, I will be.

成功者在成为成功者之前就像成功者一样行动

在内心深处,大多数人认为自己不具备成为非凡人物的条件。这是一个自我实现需要的预言。当然如果你不相信自己能做到的话,你肯定不会成功。

我写了四年博客,从来没有超过200个订阅者。回首往事,我发现我从未真正相信自己能写出真正伟大的作品。在过去的几个月里,我已经获得了5000多名订阅者。这是因为我开始认真对待我的写作,开始认真对待自己,我开始相信自己,在我取得任何成功之前,我就开始表现得像个成功者。我做了什么,我花了500美元买了一门写作课,我开始每天早上6点起床写作,我花了几百美元,买个人发展方面的书,我对待自己就像一个知道自己是互联网上最好的作家之一的人。很快,我就会实现。

“No one is ready for a thing until he believeshe can acquire it.”-Napoleon HillI’ve found that once you tell your mindwhat to do, it will make it happen.

Right now, my sole goal is to gain 100,000email subscribers over 6 months.

What’s crazy is I actually believe thiscan happen.As a result, my mind is always subconsciouslyfinding solutions to make this happen.

Most people will never experience the surgeof excitement after beginning to truly believe enormous success is possible.

Winners act like winners before they become winners.They believe they can succeed, and their mind starts working on how to get there.

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“在人们相信自己可以成功做某件事之前,是无法为之做好准备的”——拿破仑·希尔

我发现一旦你告诉自己该做什么,它就会实现。现在我唯一的目标是在6个月内,获得10万个人的电子邮件订阅。疯狂的是,我真的相信这是可能发生的。因此,我的大脑总是下意识地寻求解决方案来实现这一点。

大多数人永远不会体验到到在你相信巨大的成功是可能实现的之后,那种兴奋的浪潮。成功者在成为成功者之前就像成功者一样行动,他们相信他们能成功,于是他们的大脑开始思考如何才能成功。

Back when I was 23, and all I had was a littleblog with less than 50 views a day, I joinedan entrepreneur networking group.

These guys were intimidating.

They wore suits and laughed at weird jokesand liked going to bars where a beer cost$11.

They called themselves “Founders” and“CEO’s” and “Investors.”

I quit going after a few weeks.

There were many great guys and girls in thatgroup who were kind and passionate.

But there were also many members who justliked talking about their title.

Titles don’t mean much anymore.

Anyone can be an “expert” or a “CEO”of anything.

If titles and money are what you chase, Iguarantee you’ll reach the end of that roadfeeling empty and sad.The most important goals you should have shouldbe experiential learning and personal transformation.

If you’re always chasing success, it willconstantly elude you.

In the words of Victor Frankl, “For success,like happiness, cannot be pursued; it mustensue.”

But if you always prioritize incredible personaltransformation and paradigm-shifting experiences,success will gravitate towards you as if youwere a magnet.

你追求的是金钱和头衔,而不是经验和转变

“人们不快乐在很大程度上是因为他们对什么是有价值的感到困惑”——威廉·欧文

我23岁的时候,只有一个每天浏览量不到50次的小博客。我加入了一个企业家人脉小组,这些人把我吓坏了,他们穿着西装,听着古怪的笑话,喜欢去一杯啤酒要11美元的酒吧,他们称自己为“创始人”、“首席执行官”和“投资者”。

几周后我就不参加了,在那个小组里有很多很棒的人,他们善良而热情。但也有很多成员,只是喜欢谈论他们的头衔。头衔其实没有太多意义,任何人都可以成为任何事情的“专家”或“CEO”,如果你追求的是金钱和头衔,我保证你走到这条路的尽头时,会感到空虚和悲伤。

你应该追求的最重要的目标,应该是经验学习和个人转变。如果你总是追求成功,它就会不断地离你而去。用维克多·弗兰克的话说“因为成功和幸福一样,是无法追求的”。它必须随着你的努力而发生。但如果你总是优先考虑惊人的个人转变和范式转换的经验,成功就会想你自身具备磁场一样跑向你。

I just finished reading Memoirs of a Geisha.

It’s an incredibly sad story of a girl soldinto slavery of pleasing men.

The saddest part is that the young geishadoesn’t even realize she’s spending herwhole life chasing the wrong thing: tryingto make a man love her.

She believed if she could perform well enough,the affections of this man would finally giveher the healing and fulfillment she alwayswanted.

Most people spend their lives chasing thewrong things -- money, sex, security, andrecognition.

These won’t give you what you want.

Forget about titles and impressing others.

Focus on becoming a person you are incrediblyproud to be.

我刚读完《艺伎回忆录》,这是关于一个被卖为取悦男人的奴隶的女孩的一个非常悲伤的故事

最悲哀的部分是年轻的艺妓甚至没有意识到,她用她的一生追求错误的东西。试着让一个男人爱上她。她相信如果她表现得足够好,这个男人的爱最终会给她带来她一直想要的治愈和满足。大多数人一生都在追求错误的东西,金钱、性、安全和认可。这些不会给你想要的,忘掉头衔,忘掉给别人留下深刻印象,专注于成为一个让你自己无比自豪的人。

Every moment you spend being jealous is amoment wasted.We don’t have much time in this world.

The most successful and renowned individualshave often commented later in life how surprisinglyfast it all went.

You don’t have time to be jealous.

If you constantly look to the actions of others,you rarely act like yourself.

Your values and behavior have a harder timealigning, making you unhappy and empty.

“Personal incongruency is what causes somuch of our pain.

Not being you will destroy you.”-Tim DenningInstead of wasting away in mediocrity playingthe comparison game, choose to spend thattime working on yourself instead.

I once heard being jealous and resentful islike drinking poison and expecting the otherperson to die.

I thought that was an eerily accurate description.

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“你花在嫉妒上的时间比花在成功上的时间还多,你用来嫉妒别人成功的时间就是别人用来努力的时间,猜猜哪种方式更有价值。”——乔恩·韦斯滕博格

你花在嫉妒上的每一刻都是在浪费时间,我们在这个世界上没有多少时间。那些最成功和最有名的人,常常在晚年评论说一切都过去的如此之快。你没时间去嫉妒,如果你经常观察别人的行为,你就会变得不像自己,你的价值观和行为很难保持一致,这会让你不快乐和空虚。"个人的不协调是造成我们如此多痛苦的原因。不做自己只会毁掉你"——蒂姆·丹宁。不要把时间浪费在平庸的比较游戏中,选择把时间花在自己身上。我曾经听到过嫉妒和怨恨,就像自己喝下毒药,却期待着另一个人死去,我认为这是一个非常准确的描述。

One of the best pieces of advice I’ve heardon this topic was four simple words:

“Stay in your lane.”

It doesn’t matter how much faster they’regoing.

It doesn’t matter how much faster you’regoing.

If you keep looking at other lanes, you’regoing to crash.

Focus on you.

Learn all you can.Experiment, fail, discover what works.

Soon, you’ll build momentum.And one day, you’ll look around you, andmarvel at just how damn fast you’re going.

Cut out jealousy.

Spend all your spare time learning and growing.

我听到的关于这个话题最好的建议之一,就是简单的四个字:走你的路。其他人前进得多快并不重要,你自己有多快也不重要。如果继续看别的车道,你会撞车的。专注于你自己,尽你所能学习、实验、失败,发现什么是有效的。很快,你就会建立起动力。

总有一天,环顾四周,你会惊讶于自己的速度有多块。停止嫉妒,把你所有的空闲时间都用来学习和成长。

Most people will stay in mediocrity.

They’ll continue fighting with the majorityfor average, subpar prizes.It doesn’t have to be this way.

The road that leads to an incredibly exciting,fulfilling life is waiting for you.

It’s free and open, and there are no crowds.

Making the shift from an ordinary life toan extraordinary life is one of the most excitingdecisions you’ll ever make.

The learning, growing, and development onthis path will make you feel more alive thanyou’ve ever felt.Choose success over mediocrity.

Choose learning instead of entertainment.

Choose personal growth instead of jealousy.

Choose what you want, not what anyone elsewants.

总之,当你为生命中的每一件事承担起全部责任的那一刻,你就拥有的改变生活的力量——哈儿·艾尔罗德

大多数人将保持平庸,他们将继续与大多数人争夺普通的、一般的奖品。

人生不一定这样,通往令人难以置信的、令人幸福的充实生活的道路正在等着你。它是免费的、开放的,并且没有拥挤的人群。从平凡的生活到非凡的生活的转变,是你能做的最令人兴奋的决定之一。在这条道路上学习、成长和发展,会让你感受到前所未有的活力。

选择成功而不是平庸,选择学习而不是娱乐,选择个人成长而不是嫉妒,选择你想要的,而不是别人想要的!

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